Has it ever felt to you like you were following some set of unwritten rules on how to be a man?
These are the Man Rules™. Men can do this but can’t do that. We follow these Rules to let the world know that we are real boys and real men.
But who decides what that even means? And how do you know when you’re there?
There is a story of two fish swimming in the ocean when a third fish swims up to them and says, “Hello, gents. How’s the water?” and he swims away. The two fish look at each other and say, “What the hell is water?”
The Water is the reality in which we are constantly immersed and so often unaware. That is how the Man Rules™ show up in so many of our lives.
Don't Be Weak
Don't Show Emotion
Don't Ask For Help
Don't Care About Relationships
Do these sound familiar?
“Well, that’s just how men are!” I have heard it all of my life, and a lot of the time it did not apply to me. So I thought the only thing that made sense to me at the time – I must not be much of a man. What I have come to realize is that many men have this same conversation going on inside of them: this idea that they aren’t real men.
We are constantly striving to prove that voice wrong. But it is relentless. And you’re never quite there. Ever.
And we don’t see it. It is a conversation that is hidden from ourselves as much as anyone else. Because it is part of The Water. We simply don’t see it.
It is also important to realize – The Man Rules™ are not good or bad. There are some wonderful aspects to The Man Rules™:
Be A Protector
Rigidly following the Rules is unhealthy because there is no freedom; there is no choice. The answer is simple: Choose the man you want to be! But first you have to see them!
Discover who you are despite the Rules, and you cannot help but become the man you were meant to be.